Kate was so confused.  She’d just gotten the job offer of a lifetime as an editor for a magazine.  The most amazing part was this involved a move to France, a country she’d always been in love with.  It was a dream.  However, when she planned a special dinner, to tell her boyfriend of two years, her good news, her dream turned upside down.  Before she could drop her big news, Trent popped the big question.  He’d been waiting until he got a permanent position with his law firm.  Two days earlier he’d not only been offered a permanent position, but he’d been offered a partnership.  This was an unheard of opportunity for an attorney so young.  Now that he knew he could provide for her and their future family, Trent was ready to get married.  Just moments before her big moment, Kate was ready to move to Paris.  However, with the drop of a ring and the amount of time it took Trent to drop to one knee, Kate was frozen with confusion.  To Trent’s surprise, she didn’t answer his proposal on the spot.  Instead she excused herself in tears.

“I don’t know what to do.”  She cried.

What should have been one of the most precious moments of her entire life had turned into an embarrassing conundrum.  She loved Trent and wanted to spend her life with him.  Her career was important to her also, and she was on the fast track to a success in publishing many only dream of.

When you seriously don’t know what to do sometimes the best thing to do is do nothing.  Taking action that feels inspired is magical.  Taking action that feels confused or frightening is a recipe for disaster.  If you can’t find a feel good action the best course of action is none at all.  At first Kate was very uncomfortable.  She is a take charge kind of gal.  She gets things done.  She’s a mover and doer.  The thought of a stalemate, even temporarily was very uncomfortable to her.  However, she agreed to give it two weeks.  She called the magazine and asked for some time.  She also had a heart to heart with Trent about her future and their future and how she didn’t know what to do about the job in Paris.  He agreed to give her as much time as she needed.

I have personally found myself in this situation this week involving some pretty heavy family issues.  “I don’t know what to do” has been the theme of the week.  It is uncomfortable.  However, eventually inspiration emerged for me.  The Universe has a way of presenting just the right solutions when we wait for that feel good moment.  Kate waited too, exactly ten days.  Trent invited her for a romantic dinner, where he got down on one knee and presented her with yet another little black velvet box.  This time it wasn’t a ring.  It was a key to a flat in Paris.  He’d taken a job as Special Council for a U.S. based investment company there.  That company was one of his current firm’s biggest clients.  His firm viewed this move as an asset for them and assured him that when he came back that corner office with the big windows would be waiting.

This weekend I am planning a divinely inspired weekend with family – that has come together in a perfect way.
Kate and Trent will be on their honeymoon, in Paris, of course.

May the people of the world who are suffering be held in the loving arms of The Divine.
May they feel the warmth of the love we send, even when they are surrounded by cold.
May they by wrapped in peace and even see beauty in the devastation.

I hold each of you in my dreams and see you perfectly protected and divinely guided.
In my minds eye I see beauty and perfection surrounding you.
In my imagination I see miracles running rampant and goodness overflowing.
In my heart in know that all is well.

Spirit, I pray only that your love decends and leaves beauty behind like only Spirit can.
I am thankful peace.  I am thankful for comfort.  I am thankful for the perfect essence of love for all of those who suffer.
I am also thankful for all that I hold dear, and that in my world, right now, everything is just as it should be.

3,000,000 people were devastated by a massive earthquake in Haiti.  As many as 100,000 may be dead.  This may represent the largest one time loss of human life in recent history.  The pictures of the carnage are so disturbing parental warnings are given before the news airs.  In the face of this unprecedented destruction and tragedy it is easy to be overcome by the horror of it all.  The human suffering is so extreme, so raw, and so real, that it touches all of us in a way that makes it feel personal.  It’s so overwhelming it’s hard to know what to do to help, if there is anything to do at all.

Let me be perfectly clear.  The people of Haiti do not need your sympathy.  They do not need you to feel their pain.  The people of Haiti need three things, money, prayers, and peace.  Regarding peace, let me explain.  I honestly believe that when a large crisis in the world occurs, the most important thing those of us not directly involved can do is hold the space of peace.  Even here, sitting comfortably in our warm homes, watching the TV, looking at the horrifying images, even from here, when we feel sorrow, fear, and pain, on behalf of another, we contribute our energy to just that, sorrow, fear, and pain.  So, my plea to you, is that if you aren’t in Haiti, if you don’t have a loved one missing there, please make your vibrational offering for those people, one of peace.  Send your love, send your powerful warrior guardian angel, hold those people in the light, and imagine them in the tender arms of a Divine Loving Being.

It is our job to keep our vibrations as high as possible while others are suffering.  Our job is to stay in peace.  Our job is to do our part to hold the balance.  Our job is to love deeply and passionately – not to slip in to the abyss of sinking sorrow.  Sorrow won’t help.  Love, peace, and calm mean everything.

What the people of Haiti need are your prayers, all the peace in your heart, and money.

Yesterday a very close loved one, who doesn’t like me to write about him for public consumption, (so he shall remain nameless), had a crisis.  This is the kind of crisis that breeds drama – and drama is seductive.  When someone close to us has a problem, or is hurting, or is unhappy, it can be devastating.  It’s easy to jump on that bandwagon, feel bad for them, worry, agonize with and for them, and generally get caught up in the energy of crisis – somebody else’s crisis, making it our own.  The closer the person is, the easier it is to own their story.

As for me, I can generate enough drama of my own that one would think I wouldn’t need to borrow from others.  However, it’s a hard habit to break.  I used to be the queen of, “If you’re hurting, I’m hurting too.”  I used to think that was being a good friend, mother, sister, or wife.  I used to think that my ability to empathize made me a more valuable person.  I use to be the go to person for lot’s of people who needed someone to commiserate with.

Note – I said, used to be.  I know now that the best gift I can give those I love is the very powerful energy of, “everything is just fine – right now” no matter how bad they think it is or how bad things look, even to me.  The best way I can be the best friend, mother, sister, or wife is to see my loved one as perfect, well, whole, and thriving, even when they don’t see that.  Most importantly, the best gift I can give myself is not picking up trouble that’s not mine.  I don’t need other people’s problems, and other people don’t need the additional energy of my worry or sorrow compounding their issues.

One might think that’s cold or unrealistic.  One might think that’s not being compassionate.  I believe the only thing I really have to offer anyone who’s struggling is my best, most shiny, most uplifting vibe.  Most of the time, they don’t want or need my advice.  They also don’t need my sympathy or compassion, because those vibes aren’t uplifting or empowering.  What they need is for me to see them as perfect as they are and to hold a space where all is unfolding perfectly.  These days, I expect those closest to me to do the same for me.

Is it easy?  No – especially when the unhappiness is coming from someone really close.  However, it’s worth it.  So, yesterday when the stuff hit the fan close to home, I made a solemn promise that I would not let it become my problem.  That promise became the mantra of the day.  I kept that mantra running.  “This is not my problem.”  It was a lot more fun for me to exercise my imagination thinking about all the ways things could turn out wonderfully, then it was to to get caught up in worry.

Has the issue at hand magically dissolved?  Not quite yet.  But the outlook is certainly better today then it was yesterday. Everything is unfolding perfectly.  Did I lose sleep last night?  Not a wink.  Why?  It’s not my problem.  Everything is just fine in my world – always.

It happens – those moments that knock you on your ass.  Every so often, something so strange, and bazaar, and befuddling happens that you just can’t make sense of it and it leaves you reeling – questioning everything.  I once had a friend how referred to these moments in time as psychic reorganization opportunities.  I think that is an apt description.

Psychic Reorganization Opportunity: A moment or event that changes your perception of your own personal identity or fundamentally changes the way you view the world around you.  A moment in time that changes everything.

I have a very close friend who was recently arrested and detained on felony warrant which was a case of mistaken identity.  For several weeks her life was suspended – waiting – wondering – and yes worrying about what might happen.  I was talking to another friend today and told her I thought it was frightening that could happen to anyone – she suggested anyone could also get hit by a car or struck by lightening.  She also pointed out that being scared by this situation wasn’t really like me – and it isn’t, which led me to wonder if I’d had some psychic reorganization of the not-so-fabulous kind.  Something had happened that changed the way I looked at the world.  For a moment the world seemed less safe.  Not so.  The world is still safe and everything is still just fine.

Said friend who went through this situation told me the other day, “Lisa, I swear I did not attract being the victim of a false arrest.  I don’t know how this happened.”  However, that is also, not so.  She did attract it.  Law of attraction is absolute.  The Universe doesn’t make mistakes or randomly deliver accidents.  We are responsible for what shows up in our reality.  Period.  So – how does someone who is vibrating sky high attract something horrible?  Answer, they don’t.  Here’s the thing, from our very limited human perspective that is stuck in this moment and can’t access all of time in a life time, things can appear one way and be another.  What I’m saying is – sometimes the shit hits the fan, and it just does, and it looks, feels, and smells terrible, in that moment.  However, as days, roll into weeks, months and years, we can almost always see how that “horrible” thing was a blessing in beautiful disguise.

So, how do you answer the age old question, “how did I attract THIS???” or the even older question, “Why do bad things happen to GOOD people?”  The sooner you can orient yourself around the certainty that everything in your life is a gift, no matter how shockingly painful or uncomfortable it might seem – and – the Universe always conspires on your behalf, always every single time, the sooner peace rises and clarity emerges.  Basically, here you are, so it must be perfect.  To everyone who’s spouse cheated, or who’s job just got axed, or who got wrongfully arrested, or who’s parent just died – welcome the gift and surrender to God.  The suffering is in struggling against what is.  In the process of finding peace with what is, is the miracle of enlightenment.

My intention this year is to take everything that comes my way as a Psychic Reorganization Opportunity.  If I can reorient my way of looking at every thing as a perfect gift generously designed to make my life even more magical, my life will become just that, even more magical.  Do you want a life that’s even more magical?  Join me.