Five Types of Men Worth a Second Look
I was talking to male friend of mine a few days ago who lamented that all women are looking for the same guy. His theory was all women wanted to date the doctor or lawyer who’d never been married or had kids and who they thought could make a great dad for their future kids. He said many women didn’t realize that was what they were after, but deep in their hearts, it was. I wanted to pitch an argument to that logic, but unfortunately I really couldn’t. The thing about the the guy I was talking to was he wasn’t that guy at all. However, he will be a great catch for some lucky woman and the fact that he’s been single as long as he has is a mystery to me. It led me to ponder how often guys like my friend get looked over in the dating...
The Peanut Gallery
“The problem is my friends and family don’t like him.” That is how I started a recent conversation with a client. Honestly, that is how I’ve started many conversations with clients. Here’s the rub, that really is a problem. Now, I am all for independence and free thinking. I am always one to march to the beat of your own personal drummer. However, if your friends and family don’t like your beloved, that is quite likely a serious red flag. I know in my own personal life, I dated more then one guy who was not well liked by my loved ones. Heck, I married one. The reasons were varied, ranging from he’s just plain lazy to outright dangerous, but the over-riding theme was always the same. This guy isn’t good for you and you can do...
The Measure of a Good Relationship
Image via Wikipedia This is my second marriage. I refer to my first husband as the practice husband. During my first marriage, I thought I was a pretty good wife. I would have given myself a solid B+. I am quite certain my ex-husband wouldn’t be that generous with the grading scale… To be honest, when I was married the first time, I am somewhat ashamed to say, I never thought about it. I never ever thought about being a good wife, or if I could be a better one. I was pretty much on auto pilot. I don’t know if it was immaturity or I just didn’t care. I do know I thought I was doing the best I could, or good enough and left it at that. Fast forward a few years, and to a seriously upgraded marriage. I think about it a lot now....
What’s On Your To-Do List
It is my experience when you ask married women what their top three priorities are their marriage is almost always in that list, as it should be. It is also my experience that when you ask them how they are spending their time and energy their marriage or their husband gets somewhere between very little to absolutely zero singular focus. Sure you’re in the car with him on the car trip to the in-laws. I know, you go to bed together every night. However, if your husband and your marriage aren’t getting the energy that your priority list dictates it should, the relationship will suffer. More simply put, if your relationship is in your top three priorities, it needs to be getting that much time and focus. There is a myth that says relationships,...
The Essence of Love
In my previous life, and previous marriage, I was a very busy girl. I worked full time, took care of our child, cooked, cleaned, and more or less waited on my husband hand and foot. I tried disparately to anticipate what he might want and get it for him or get it done. I did anything and everything I could to keep him happy. Why? Life was easier when he was happy. The problem was, he wasn’t happy, ever. Luckily for both of us we were so unhappy despite my best interests we called it a day and got divorced. In my current life, and current marriage, I am a very busy girl. I work full time, take care of our child, sometimes I cook, sometimes I clean. Sometimes I don’t. That said, I would do anything at all for my husband. I try to anticipate...
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