Top Ten Ways to Irritate a Man
I overheard a conversation a couple of days ago in a men’s clothing store, between three guys. I will fully admit that the topic of conversation caught my attention and I intentionally eves dropped. I probably would have taken my mini-notepad out and started taking notes if that hadn’t been too obvious.One of them was there to buy something to wear on a blind date. The three of them were discussing what could go wrong on that date, which rapidly turned into a conversation about what women do that irritate them. I am going to paraphrase a bit, but I am going to give you a peak inside the brains of three single guys who appeared to be pretty smart. They also all three seemed to want to find Miss Right. However, at least two of them were...
The Case for Putting Out
I have heard it at least a dozen times this week. A woman explaining to me that she doesn’t feel like being intimate with her husband, meaning she’s not down for having sex, until she feels a stronger emotional connection with him. Maybe he’s distant and stressed. Maybe there’s been hurt that has left lingering resentment. Maybe communication is stalled and misunderstandings are plentiful. That said, for whatever reason, or no reason at all, she isn’t feeling “connected” and she isn’t putting out. How can she be expected to be physically intimate when she’s missing emotional intimacy? Joel and Katie had been married for six years. In the last twelve months they’d had sex exactly two times. The longer they went...
The Investment that Saves a Relationship
When a marriage is in trouble it takes a ton of energy. Saving a relationship that is tanking takes energy. Ending a relationship that feels beyond repair, takes a lot of energy. Sick relationships require a lot of attention no matter what the outcome is. Not to mention they are expensive in every imaginable way. I’ve ended relationships with men that I wasn’t even married to that cost me tens of thousands of dollars and left me emotionally bankrupt. Often times people put their relationships on autopilot until something goes wrong and then they start to pay attention. The challenge is in a lot of cases by the time the trouble has started it’s too late. Something has gone wrong that can’t be fixed. Not that you’re done paying. You have to then go...
The Great I AM
Image by Tanya Dawn via Flickr There are a lot of varying view points out there about affirmations. Do they work? Are they a waste? Do they possibly even make things worse? Honestly, I think they work if you think they will. However a lot of people don’t. That said, I am a big fan of “I am” affirmations. An “I am” statement used as an affirmation is very simple. The subconscious is trained to respond to the words I am. We think them all the time. Those words form the very construct of our self identity. I am fat. I am lovable. I am successful. I am lonely. Each of those statements are very powerful and absolute. We are what we think we are. The minute an “I am” statement is activated, it becomes the truth, at...
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