Choose As If Your Life Depends On It
I said to a client yesterday, “For the next few days I only want you to do things that make you feel better.” As simple a concept as that was to me, it was clearly confusing to her. So, she clarified, “You mean for a week, you want me to only do things that make me feel better?” “Actually, for the rest of your life, I want you to only do things that make you feel better.” On the physical plane, in my phone call I swear you could hear crickets chirping in the background while the wheels in her brain went round and round. She was honestly completely unprepared to get that bit of homework from our session. However, in my imagination, in the ether’s angels were singing and fairies were dancing at the lovely thought of doing things that...
How to Get That Spark Back
I could build a practice on this one question. “How do we get that spark back?” The answer is shockingly simple. Be the person you were when you had spark. It’s no secret that in the beginning of a relationship we are on our best behavior. However, a more subtle reality is that falling in love makes us feel our most alive. In that high vibration, sharply alive energy, to put it simply, it’s easy to be exciting, sexy, and engaged. Not too mention your formerly single self was doing a lot of cool and exciting things – that you may or may not do anymore. Fast forward a few months or years and in many cases that highly charged vibe wears off. Now, I know what you’re thinking. “We have bills, pets, kids, cars, jobs, and...
How to Attract Your Soulmate – for Real!
Most singles have “the list” of the qualities they want in their future mate. Before I met my husband, I certainly did. That said, the real magic to “the list” is what you do with it once you’ve completed it. I always encourage people to think about the energy of the person they are looking for. A very common list of qualities might look like this: Spiritually grounded Physically active Financially stable Joyful Honest Good with kids You get the point. Here is the magic – it’s kind of an attraction slight of hand. Once you’ve made that list, stop looking for that person and start looking for that energy. How can you get more spiritual energy in your life? How can you bring in the energy of being active, healthy, and vibrant? Where...
To Give or Not to Give
Simple concept. If you aren’t giving from a surplus, it’s not giving. It’s sacrificing. A sacrifice has a very different energy. It’s tight, constricted, and anxious. It may be done in love, but it’s sacrifice just the same. For women in relationships of any sort, the concepts around gifts vs. sacrifice can be muddy at best. We want to share and freely give with those we love. When we are not full up ourselves, our lovers, our children, our friends who are the objects or our affection, feel the strain of our attention. There is an energy in our “giving” that feels strained and flat. We’ve all been there, tired, depleted, and hungry for something. It’s desperate and lonely. Sometimes driven by that very desperation and...
If It’s Not Fun…
There is a commonly held belief that relationships, especially marriages take work. In that old model of relationship you know that hard times are a coming. You know that being with someone for any length of time is going to present all sorts of unpredictable challenges. However, once you commit to a relationship, you’re in it to win it, no matter how much hard work it takes. You’re going to do your time, and put in the work, and get through the hard times, come hell or high water, for better or for worse. I mean, it’s in the vows, so you’re going to do it. The harder the times, and the stickier the work, the prouder you can be when you get through it. The bigger the problem, the shinier the merit badge… So old school. Oh so...
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