The Boundary Keeper
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, Kelsy, who was beside herself because her recent ex-boyfriend was not respecting her boundaries. She was laying them down very clearly, but he kept crossing the line. Sometimes he was stepping on the line, sometimes he was only one foot over the line. However, quite recently he was way over the line. It wasn’t like he was stalking her exactly. However he certainly wasn’t respecting her requests for space and privacy. Every time he called when he wasn’t suppose to Kelsy would answer to tell him to stop calling. Every time he emailed just to check in she’d open it and get increasingly frustrated that he was persisting. She was seeing a therapist who told her she had to...
Interesting is Very Attractive
When I was fifteen I had a break up I thought would kill me. Sadness descended in our home with such fierceness that my father still calls it the “semester of the never ending dark night.” Finally one day my mother braved her way into my room, where I was listening to my Rick Springfield cassette tape for the 10,000th time, with a piece of inspiration I’ve carried with me all these years. “Lisa, the best revenge is to be interesting.” In typical dramatic flare she didn’t elaborate except to say one more thing, “It’s also the best way to get another boyfriend, and it’s time my dear.” As it turns out, as usual my mother was right. Although it took me a while to figure out her magic formula, when I got my head around it I ...
Top Ten Signs He Might Be Mr. Right
I honestly believe that “the one” is largely determined by chemistry, some undefinable quality that you can’t ignore. As Einstein put it, “Gravity is not responsible for people falling in love.” I’m pretty sure what he meant, was you just can’t make sense of it.In the last week I’ve probably been asked 20 times, “How do I know if he’s the one?” I can’t answer for that mystery of Divine intervention, or the X factor of chemistry. However, below are ten things he has to be to be “the one”. You never have to make excuses for him. This man shows up Mr. Wonderful all the time. You don’t ever find yourself saying, “He’s really stressed right now” or, “You just don’t know him the way I do. He really is...
What’s On Your To-Do List
It is my experience when you ask married women what their top three priorities are their marriage is almost always in that list, as it should be. It is also my experience that when you ask them how they are spending their time and energy their marriage or their husband gets somewhere between very little to absolutely zero singular focus. Sure you’re in the car with him on the car trip to the in-laws. I know, you go to bed together every night. However, if your husband and your marriage aren’t getting the energy that your priority list dictates it should, the relationship will suffer. More simply put, if your relationship is in your top three priorities, it needs to be getting that much time and focus. There is a myth that says relationships,...
The Great I AM
Image by Tanya Dawn via Flickr There are a lot of varying view points out there about affirmations. Do they work? Are they a waste? Do they possibly even make things worse? Honestly, I think they work if you think they will. However a lot of people don’t. That said, I am a big fan of “I am” affirmations. An “I am” statement used as an affirmation is very simple. The subconscious is trained to respond to the words I am. We think them all the time. Those words form the very construct of our self identity. I am fat. I am lovable. I am successful. I am lonely. Each of those statements are very powerful and absolute. We are what we think we are. The minute an “I am” statement is activated, it becomes the truth, at...
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