I got bad news. I’m primed to share…
I got seriously bad news today. We’re talking about the kind of bad news that left me pulled over on the side of the road trying to catch my breath. I’m on vacation. The call came out of the blue. Here I am alone. So, after pulling over and catching my breath I drove back to my temporary casa and thought who do I call? As I was formulating a text message to my husband who is in training today, but thought better of it. David can’t do anything right now. He really doesn’t need this information. It isn’t going to help him or me to tell him right this second. It won’t make his training any easier. My mommy! I’ll call her. I know right where she is. She’s in a car headed for a family reunion with my sister who I might...
Berries and Being Someone Elses Nightmare
I could write a book called Chronicles from the Farmers Market. During the Summer months I spend a lot of time there. Our weather has been unusually cool this year and many of the fresh fruits and vegies that would typically make an appearance have been very late. None more noticeably late than Spooner’s Farm berries. Our entire community holds it’s breath for those precious little gems to show up at the market. There was a collective sigh of relieve this year when they finally showed up. Today at the market there was a lot of commotion about the Spooner’s booth. The most precious flats of berries of the year were in stock. The half strawberry, half raspberry flats where flying off the table. I managed to work my way through the...
Don’t Make Me Yell!
I am a work at home mom. Most of the time having the ability to work from home, doing what I love, in the company of my three year old, whom I refer to as my CEO, is a dream come true. Occasionally though, when I am not on the top of my schedule and organization game, it can be a bit of a nightmare. I have windows of time during the day when I do group and client calls. I do those when I have childcare or when the CEO is sleeping. So, nap time is money making time for me. The recent challenge has been me scheduling things right up against nap time. It goes like this: Nap time is 2:28, we head upstairs. Client call is 2:30. At 2:32 I am pleading and begging the CEO to lay down and rest quietly. 2:33 he’s crying and asking for his...
Our Relationship is Fine, I’m Just Unhappy
I was talking to a man the other day who had recently found out his wife was having an affair. He got this info in a double-whammy conversation where she confessed the affair and asked for a divorce. He was running the gamut of emotions you might expect, like devastation, rage, and profound sadness. However, he was mostly shocked. He professed he had no idea their marriage was in, “that kind of trouble.” It’s just an unhappy relationship, but he didn’t know it was that unhappy. That said, he obviously new the marriage was in some kind of trouble. Now I tend to think, men really can be blindsided by these kinds of things, where women will typically have suspicions, that most of the time they ignore. Women are no smarter then...
This is the real secret exposed for getting your stuff – (bullsh*t!)
I remember sitting in church as a little girl. We didn’t belong to a fire and brimstone congregation, exactly. However, the tone was tough and the rhetoric even more so. It was very clear to me that if I wanted any favors from God, I needed to be good. If I wanted to go to heaven vs. the other option, I needed to be good and stay good. No shades of gray there. Either I was good, or I was a sinner. So, I wanted things ranging from a new bike to a boy friend. I wanted longer hair. I wanted new cloths that didn’t come from Kmart. I wanted a twin sister. The good news for me, as I interpreted it was anything was possible for God, if and only if I was good enough, did things just right, and did lots of good works. I sort of...
When Is It Time to Start Dating Again?
One of the questions I often get is when is it time to start dating again after a break up or divorce. There are a lot of standard formula’s to answer that question and honestly I have a standard answer or two, I throw out at times. However, we all know there isn’t really a one size fits all answer. Everyone is different. That said, there is an answer, and although it’s not a specific period of time, it’s very measurable and very important. The simple answer is, it’s never a good time to be in the dating game, if you aren’t at the top of your self esteem and self love game. I’ve had clients who experienced painful divorces who were able to get their act together, develop a strong sense of self worth, treat themselves lovingly...
What I Learned from My Ex-husbands Mistress
In another lifetime ago, as many of my readers know, I was married to a man that never stopped dating. Let’s just say he had more then one affair. Many of them were one nighters or little flings. One was a full blown relationship on the side. When I found out about this relationship, we agreed to get counseling. I agreed to stay. He agreed to call it off. However, it didn’t take long before all signs pointed to the fact that he was still seeing her. We’ll call her Kelly. One of the signs that something was going on was the hangup phone calls that kept coming to the house in the evening. One evening when I was home alone there had been a series of them over a couple of hours and finally I picked up the phone and immediately...
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